Here’s My First Vibrator – Part 2

Here’s My First Vibrator – Part 2

In this second part of the write up on what to consider before using a vibrator for the first time, we will touch on the “hows” and “whens” of using your first adult toy.
After reading the first part Here’s My First Vibrator – Part 1, we believe, you have done some personal research and figured that more than 50% of women use a vibrator for multiple reasons and out of them nearly 83% use a love stick for clitoral stimulation. So, now you know that you are not alone seeking pleasure and there is nothing wrong in asking for some of it, for yourself.
What naturally follows in your quest is how to get the best out of it. Read on:

With partner or without

To tell you the truth, it doesn’t matter much as it is “you” who is at the center. Whether you are solo or with a partner, you can use a massager anytime you feel like with whoever you are or whenever you want to. It’s only the session name that changes – either you will have a masturbation or a foreplay sesh. Bottomline, in any of these sessions you come out as the one who wins the pleasure. All you need to keep in mind is whether you are enjoying the touch and the buzz, are your erogenous zones getting pampered, and is there a moan that’s about to escape. If the answers to those questions are “Yes”, you are on the right path.

Find the right spots

Introducing an adult toy in your personal space implies you got to do some learning. The general idea is, if you are using a vibrator you are either going to use it externally on your clitoris or internally to stimulate the walls and the G-spot. But touching your bean with a love stick or inserting inside at the very first chance may not be the right idea when you are going to use it for the first time ever. Your body has a number of erogenous zones and they all react differently to different types of touches. Using an adult toy is definitely something completely new to your body, so your body needs to get tuned to those touches. Starting from your temple to the big toe, you do not know how you’ll react when you are touched. For some, a slow and steady buzz in the cleavage may turn them on, while for some others an off-and-on touch around the nipple may get them wet, and then there may be another group of women who may find a touch at the naval helps them guide all the way to the climax. You need to try them out and experiment with the touches. Like the 83%, you may finally settle near or inside your vagina, but that should not stop you from exploring and discovering all the other spots that can help you twitch and turn.

Fun of starting slow

The advantage of using a sex toy, is you are in complete control. Depending on what you want, you can adjust the settings to get a blunt steady buzz or an intense patterned one. It’s a good idea to tune it down during the first few sessions. Putting your battery-operated-boyfriend in its basic setting will give your body some time to know what’s going on. A few session later, when you notch it up by a degree or more, your body won’t repulse. Then you may even play around with the settings change patterns, increase intensity, or do both and stroke. By then your body has completed its learning on how to get pleasure from all that hums. This is particularly helpful for your clitoris. Being the most sensitive organ below the abdomen, whose sole purpose is to give you pleasure, the sweet spot triggers the release of Endorphins hormone in your brain. This queer hormone is responsible for both pleasure and pain; therefore, when you get near to the peak, at times, you break down to crying. You might have experienced this when you or your partner had used fingers. Now, with a massager, you may get the same feeling but if you start off with an intense setting then you may sense only the pain, pushing the pleasure far away from being enjoyed.

One for your kind

Each one of you is different, both externally and internally. So it’s natural that your pleasure needs will be different from one to another. The product designers and manufacturers are aware of this fact and so you find different types of vibrators, designed for different purposes. We have already mentioned about the bullet which can be your go-to when you are starting off, but once you get in the groove, you can pick and choose anything to suit your need from the wide bouquet available. On the basis of the shape alone, you will get spoilt for choice. If ridges appeal to you, select a classic, it’s long length and undulating surface form a great team to build strong waves quickly. In case you want to find and tip your G-spot off the edge, go for a G-spot vibrator. The bent head of this one helps you easily identify the location of the girl button and massages the point till you squirm in pleasure for sure. For those who want more of touches with varying degrees of intensity, there’s the wand type. The bulging head of this vibrator minimizes any unwanted entry but delivers the types of vibration you ask for on the outer walls of your vagina or on the clitoris. And of course there are rabbit vibrators for those who demand dual pleasure – rub the G-spot and clitoris at the same time. These come with a big bent head that stimulates the location internally and an extra protrusion in the shape of a rabbit with a pair of ears that are meant play havoc with your clit. So much for the shape. Add to it the different sizes and then factor in the features like silent, powerful, remote-controlled etc. The variants are many and it’s good to experiment with them as well; however, we suggest you start playing around only after you get super comfortable with your very first purchase.

You will come quick

It’s given that with a vibrator or massager, be it of any type, you’ll be there quicker. This will happen for primarily two reasons, first, it’s a new tool that you haven’t used earlier, so there is a novelty factor that plays a role here. Second, it’s a machine that can deliver quick vibes exactly at the spot where you want it and does not get tired easily. These two factors bring the love tide far ahead of time than you have experienced in the past. What do you need to understand here? You should not feel bad about it, particularly when you are with your partner. Both you and your partner need to get it clear that the objective is getting you enjoy to the pleasure, initially, no one should think about the time it takes to get you there. During the first few times, you will reach the end quicker than you have been in the past. But over time, this will subside and you will get more time to enjoy.

Foreplay or sex

Just like you, a massager doesn’t understand time and place. If it’s got to be used, it’s got to be used. You need not think much about the “when” here. Particularly for couples, a vibrator is meant to be used anytime, from seducing to sex. The art is to know how to use it. Gal, when you intend to seduce, simply holding a small lovestick near your lips and slowly rubbing around may pull your partner to the game. Guys, take it up here, step up, turn on the vibe and slowly run it up and down her throat, to add to the titillation, play it further down on her mounds at times. If both of you want, you can have a clothed foreplay, with a vibrator alone. And when the act turns really steamy and he gets into you, simply hold the sex toy on your clitoris for a sensuous massage at the time when he is penetrating. Trust us this will leave his hands free to play around with the other parts of your body and gift you a blissful orgasm, the one you will crave for again and again.

Vibrators and massagers not just adult toys. They are accessories that make your sex life complete. These sex toys are meant to add that additional push to your personal time that transforms the feeling from “good” to “WOW”. You need not get worried about whether you should use them or not. Rather you can start reading on how artfully you can use them so that the time you spend with these vibrators and massagers gets etched in your mind. Share your thoughts in the comments.

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