Here’s My First Vibrator – Part 1

Here’s My First Vibrator – Part 1

The first time users of a vibrator or massager need a sea change in the way they think about making love – with self or a partner. So for the first timers, we thought of talking about the hows and whys of introducing an adult toy in their life. We figured this will be long, so we thought of publishing this in parts. Here is the first wave.

Aditi plugged in the earphone, got under her blanket, turned on the erotica, and stretched her arm to pick the cup of hot chocolate kept on the bedside table. In a few minutes down the film, she started exploring her body and then slowly started moving her fingers towards her bald man in the boat. At the same time, some 1,000 odd kilometers away, Ravi was playing with his fingers on Simran’s belly. With a soft moan, she pushed Ravi’s hand further down, held his thumb, and guided it to her bean. Next, was the “Ah! Moments”. That was five years ago. Today both Aditi and Simran use a buzzer to spice up their experiences, they have been relishing since the past 5 years.

The journey for both; however, started with a lot of reservations and apprehensions similar to the ones that hold you back to your wishes but do not allow to bring in a sex toy in your moments of pleasure. Rattled by different types questions related to safety, usability, features, and the most important one – the way to handle the social stigma, not only Aditi and Simran but a lot of women like you practically delay their first purchase of an adult toy or worse, give up the idea.

Fight the stigma

While questions are many but the one that needs high priority handling is the one related to the social stigma. Because this particular one has a clutch on your mind and does not let you think about you. You fail to realize that you need to have some time of your own, love to add some variations in your love life, and there is nothing wrong if you indulge in self-sex. Like any other normal person who does not think of sex as a responsibility and wants to do more with it than helping their bloodline to extend, you are in no devil’s zone when a thought to press the pipote crosses your mind. In the process, you choose your finger, palm, your partner’s finger or palm, or an adult toy that buzzes to glory. Using a vibrator is purely a personal choice and you as an adult has every right make that choice that makes you feel good.

Once that mindset is set the rest becomes far easier to handle. All you would require is a bit of research and finalize on the adult toy of your choice.

Get to know

When Aditi and Simran had their mind set on stepping up the fun, the first task they performed was to familiarize with the product. There are different types of products available in both online and offline market. At one hand you have the small ones, popularly called bullet, on the other, you get those monstrously big toys for women that come with more than one bulge to create a few thrilling waves inside. The range of vibrators also differs from the styles in terms of their penetration depth, from clitoris and G-Spot to as deep as the uterus.

Once you get acquainted with the size and type of design, you can move on to find out about the intensity of the vibrations. Besides intensity, you should get knowledgeable of the fact that these vibrators buzz at different patterns that are controlled by their setting buttons. There are some that offer five different types of patterns while another may offer 10 and then again the third kind that offers one type of constant blunt buzz. As a first time purchaser, we suggest this is what you should pick up for your bedtime sesh.

Respect the mood

You know this already. When you use your fingers you just don’t slide it. You normally start with “getting ready to perform”. Unlike a man who can run, gun and kill all in a span of 300 seconds, you need time and setting and place and something to initiate. For you, mood plays a very important role in the entire performance. Your room needs to be cool but you need to be warm, your mind is supposed to be composed but your gut would wrench, he whispers in your ear or you flip a page of that book you are reading, bottom line you need to set the temperament. Get under a sheet that always helps in tuning the temperature to the optimum. Pick on a soft porn if there is a need and let your mind make the first move if you’re a single. If you are with your partner, start talking about your feelings and graduate to what your ideas of ideal love making can be, even for you movie works. And then start exploring, because then you’ll start getting wet and that is really really important.

Manually, first

There were quite a few reasons why you used your or your partner’s palm and fingers to get pleasure. First and foremost it gives you the control. You can increase the pressure or decrease the pressure the way you feel like to get at the point you want to be. You can start when you want, you can go as deep as you wish and if you need more, you can add more fingers to the action to give you more. Finally, if you think if you want your love hole to be rammed (though not desirable) you can do that at your own free will. Be it yours or your partner’s, fingers and palms have their natural warmth that adds to the build-up of the sensation. The warmth of your fingers transfers to the wall of the labia, helping it get wetter and more lubricated. Besides, when you insert your fingers the way your pum-pum feels a part of you, similarly your fingers feel the warmth of your love box. These two send two different signals to your brain, completing the love circuit that sends waves of contraction. Therefore, it is always better to start off manually. It’s your known action and you are already comfortable with it. Only when the sensation asks you for more, which it will then pick up a massager.

Lube is mandatory

When we met Aditi, she said that she started using lubes with her vibrator from her first day. She was pretty sure that her vaginal walls were dripping, but she simply didn’t want to take any risk. As the end result, she had a long, enjoyable climax she was dying to talk about to her friends. Interestingly, same was with Simran. Although her partner guided her to near the top, she insisted for lubes on her vibe before her partner started to up the game. Practically speaking lubes help a lot. A vibrator is still a toy and like all toys, this adult toy has a sterile surface, that means it is dry. Hence there is a need to wet that surface first, else it will stick to your inside walls giving you a more irritating experience than bliss.

In our next part we will talk about how to start, ways to explore, and the different angles you can experiment with, so stay tuned.

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